3 Honor widows who are truly widows. 4 But if a widow has children or grandchildren, let them first learn to show godliness to their own household and to make some return to their parents, for this is pleasing in the sight of God.
Jesus told us that the world will know that we are his disciples by the love we have for one another. Paul picks up on that teaching in his letter to Timothy as he explains the role of caring for widows. From these comments by Paul we can learn two important truths to meditate upon. First, the church should not be caring for widows who are not truly widows. Who are truly widows? Those who have no family (children or grandchildren) to care for them. Those who area all alone with no assistance. Those who have no other means of help. It’s those widows that we ought to look after, care for and be mindful of. Second, the primary care for widows should and must come from their own family. Children and grandchildren have a biblical responsibility to look after and care for their parents. As the boomer culture in our society continues to age we who followed have to think more and more about our role in caring for them. Let’s face it we are all getting older and we have to think about these things. As a parent I also have to consider the fact that one day my children will have to care for me in some way. In this moment I find myself asking a lot of questions and maybe you do too, and at this time I don’t have many answers. What I do know is that we need to be mindful of these things and consider Paul’s teaching for the church and ourselves.